I read recently that Stanford, MIT etc are letting boys and girls share rooms. Sounds like a good idea. But can girls and boys be just friends? I was watching a show on Indian Television where Youngistaan generation was asked the same question. They believe so. I did too until recently.
But then, having seen life to such an extent in such a short time, I started analyzing this based on my experiences. Well, here is my analysis. You are free to agree or disagree. I believe it’s easier if you are in your teens or twenties. But as we progress into thirties and later, it gets a bit complicated. So here it is:
You are single/other person is single: No problems.
You are single/other person is married: Make sure he or she is content and happy with their married life. (Cannot help it if they have a roving eye no matter what). Make sure his/her spouse is aware of your friendship.
You are married: First, make sure your spouse is not an insecure person and that (s)he knows about it. Then you should be content with your marriage so that you are not looking for more than ‘friendship’. And finally the other person should be also content with his/her life. Or else they will start mis-interpreting everything you say and do.
If any of you are married(well, repeating the above and adding more): First make sure your spouse knows about this friendship. If you believe you cannot tell your spouse for some reason or other, then stop this friendship. If you believe you are not doing anything wrong by being friends with this person, then there is no reason to hesitate to tell your spouse. Think about it. Any reason you give, is not right. You cannot be friends with secrecy. Then the whole intention is not right. You are treading on thin ice in such cases. You should not hurt your spouse or other person’s spouse. Imagine yourself in their shoes and would you approve of such secrecy?
Remember, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. We don’t think alike.
Now, this is based on my experiences. But if you think through it, you will see the value in it.
Yes and NO.
Women Rule !
By: Andy on June 20, 2008
at 10:34 pm
I know what you mean. I told a guy his shirt looks good and he thought I was hitting on him even though I am married. I really liked his shirt. That was it. Now I know I should not do it.
By: Praju on June 22, 2008
at 4:37 pm
I am married. But still have men trying hard to get me in the name of friendship. what are they thinking? I think there are enough women around whom I can be friends with and share my thoughts. Doesn’t have to be a guy.
By: Carolyn on June 25, 2008
at 4:40 am
I invited a guy for dinner when his wife went to India for a visit. He thought I was hitting on him, while all the while my husband was sitting right next to me who was busy with something and asked me to make the call. Since then I refrain from interacting with any guy. I just say hello and try not to say too much. I dont want to get into trouble.
By: P on July 27, 2008
at 12:17 am
As one of my friends said, let’s keep it simple by saying only if both parties are single, you can be friends.
By: janya on August 29, 2008
at 3:17 pm